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Ask The Batemaster: Frottage

“Here on Bateworld you do find a fair amount of this special and intense form of pleasure being enjoyed in some guys’ shared personal photos and videos…”

QUESTION: I’m really lucky because I have several buddies who like penis frottage as much as I do. Sometimes we spend hours rubbing our erect, lubricated penises together. To me this is just about the best thing there is, and my buds love it too! Why don’t I see a lot more cock-to-cock frot in porn?

RESPONSE: The special ecstasy we men can experience while rubbing our erect penises together has always been a special favorite pleasure for me personally, as well. Most of the men I ask about cock2cock masturbation absolutely love it also. The practice combines a deep love for masturbation with an appreciation for our fellow men and for their penises. Nothing else you can rub your penis against can be more exciting (for many men) and more perfectly delicious than another man’s erect penis!

It is true that you do not see a great deal of cock2cock masturbation in mainstream porn. Sometimes it is featured briefly in both gay porn and masturbation-focused porn, which are sub-categories of the mainstream oral and insertion-oriented stuff. One reason you don’t see more is probably the typical scripts, the predictable outline a great deal of explicit video falls into: flirt, kiss, undress, suck, fuck, withdraw and come on the other person. Much of straight, bisexual and gay porn all follows this basic scenario.

There’s nothing wrong with all of that, if it floats your boat. But commercial producers are behind the curve on this. Your special interest is a good reason to seek out amateur material, and specifically male masturbation-oriented videos. Sometimes I’ve seen promising instances where two guys rub their penises together, then to my disappointment, they either proceed to other things almost immediately, or it seems it’s been edited out for what the producers think you prefer to see. Among the hundreds of men I discuss masturbation with, cock2cock does seem to be a special favorite of many.

Of course, you are fortunate in that you do have real-life buddies who appreciate this special joy. Of course, actually rubbing your penises together is a lot more rewarding than watching other people having fun playing a game! One approach to encouraging more interest in cock2cock frottage is to photograph yourself and your buds enjoying it, and record videos.

Here on Bateworld you do find a fair amount of this special and intense form of pleasure being enjoyed in some guys’ shared personal photos and videos. It’s fantastic to rub erect penises together while staring directly into each other’s eyes, and while your balls jostle in contact. This becomes a deep and profound communication (in my humble opinion) from penis-to-penis, man-to-man, heart-to-heart—maybe even soul-to-soul.

Ask your buddies if they’ll let you to record some sessions so you can share them online. Frot cock2cock proudly and openly, and you’ll inspire others to do the same!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at BateWorld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your body or sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.


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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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21 Comments

    1. Well, sure, most definitely! The penis is quite sensitive to temperature differences, as well as pressure, direct physical stimulation, and other factors. I suggest you try it and find out! — BPG

    2. The first time I did this , Wanted him to cum first. His cock had a large head, which bulged up and the peehole stretched open before he popped. I needed his cum. We were cock to cock, with me gently kissing the pee hole. And with a dribble, it all came out, not hard but warm, pulsing. I needed it all. We shook in each others arms, cheek to cheek. I gently kissed his deflating balloon of a cock head, and then his forehead. And I feel that this was one of the sexiest things I ever did. It took several minutes before we could breathe easy.

  1. My good friend and I moved into an apt together we were 17 at the time, never saw each other naked. I always had this strong desire to know how big he was, I tried to look at his outline around his bulge. Two weeks into our living together and seeing him naked I couldn’t help to see his soft was huge, much bigger than me hard. He saw me checking it out and said n a sexy, sensuous way , “I always wanted you to feel my big cock outsizing yours, with that he grabbed me in a cock to cock bearhug, and asked how does that feel against yours. Fucking Huge!! you are worthy of me worship you, with that, I fell to my knees and sucked his huge cock, we are both married now and I still suck on him! WOW

    1. That’s such a rare and erotic experience. I envy you. And I am also struck by the fact that you still get to suck him. What great friends you are! Such an enviable relationship all through the years. I am so glad you shared this. I would love to read more of your writings about your relationship with your friend.

  2. I would love to find a nice guy to have a cock to cock sex fight. I mean rub our cock together and see who can win. The loser is the one cum first and also 69 him.

    Also make it more s serious who ever losses has to put the other guys initial tattoo on their ass. That is by desires. Does anyone would like to try this with me? Man to Man. Would you like to Challenge me?

  3. This is what I like to do. My desire.

    Meet a real nice guy that would like to play around with me. Grind Cock to Cock, suck each other 69.
    Even have a sex match. We grind Cock to Cock, 69 each other and who ever cum first loses the sex fight.

    The Challenge is:
    The one loses has to get the other Initial Tattoo on their ass. At least a quarter size.

    “THAT COULD BE HOT!” Even make your Dick hard thanking about it! What do you thank?

    Is that wrong to try something like that?

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  4. My wife wants me do this with another man while she watches and masturbates. I never imagined or heard of it. I’ve never done anything with a man before nor have I wanted to. But my wife accommodates my brain junk so I’m trying to figure out how to help her out. I wouldn’t even know how to find someone to participate. Any help?

  5. I am an “old west man” – ‘cowboys BedRoll’ the man to man, face to face, cock beside cock with full body head to toe contact rubbing back and forth in a bit of a see-saw motion, each making every effort be sure the other is getting as good a contact as we are. Weintrob called this man to man pleasure with absolutely no suggestion of penetration of any kind. Men really connected to one another will cum nearly simultaneously or immediately upon feeling the warmth of the other’s jet. Done well that will promote a wonderfully intimate sliding about with the lubricated torsos in extraordinarily erotic pleasure. If you desire this erotic mutual message can spread the lotion about and allowed to evaporate/dry in place providing a wonderful scent until such time as one may desire to resolve the affect. *This pleasure routine Absolutely does not involve interference of Any hands gripping penises rather they arms are strapped around the shoulders/neck of the other or involved in message of other body areas. *See “The video that’s gone viral on twitter” or several versions at ‘Pornhub’-gay-search -“Nutta Butta” will access a few Fine short videos providing a snippet of finale moments of joy. As per this diatribe; I’ve never been fond of the two pricks in one hand masturbation scene. I do/can enjoy mutual masturbation of each other as an erotic warm up for the Real Frottage experience *My Pleasure of the full body frottage began with my best buddy in high school, the football quarter-back and has continued to be the love of MY life through his marriage, six boys, and social friends with wife for the last 70 years…..just got a damp spot in my shorts relating these pleasures. The dearth of videos featuring such activities is ‘Real Frottage’ disappointing and frustrating.

  6. This topic is certainly getting a warm response, It appears that a special section of the regular email message s may be in order?

  7. The Frottage challenge: whoever cums first sucks the other guy off getting twice the cum and a mix of flavors!