There are no absolutes, no rules in male masturbation, except according to me: “Never hurt yourself, or hurt anyone else.”

QUESTION:

I know you say it’s always good to stroke with lube, and reasons why. But I’ve always done it dry. I love dry stroking! I’m circumcised, and my penis is still really sensitive. What’s wrong with this picture?

RESPONSE:

I’m not sure anything is wrong! There are several factors I don’t know about your case. One is your age, for how many years you’ve been masturbating dry. Another is your style of stroking. A lot of dry masturbation can certainly desensitize your penis. Assertive rubbing may develop “callus,” which means a layer of basically dead, inert outer skin cells. This can block activity of sensitive pleasure-receptor nerves in your penile skin surface.

Gentler tickling, or simply sliding the skin of your shaft over the inner stiffness may be less likely to cause this desensitizing. There are no absolutes, no rules in male masturbation, except according to me: “Never hurt yourself, or hurt anyone else.” Though I encourage men to use lubrication for several reasons, or at least to try using it, if you are not in the habit, there’s certainly no wrong or right involved!

So long as you are happy with the sensitivity of your penis and the intensity of your sensations, if you have no wish to try lubrication, that is entirely your choice. At the same time, there are several reasons why lubrication is a valuable asset for many men during their masturbation practice. Overall, it helps protect penis sensitivity. For most men lubrication dramatically increases the intensity of pleasurable sensations the penis can generate.

So long as you are happy with the sensitivity of your penis and the intensity of your sensations, if you have no wish to try lubrication, that is entirely your choice.

Though Albolene is wildly popular among online male masturbators, my own preference is for 100% pure organic coconut oil, which not only protects your skin, but it is also actively good for your skin, and provides long-lasting incredibly delicious sensitivity to touch.

Some guys who are intact, or uncut, do not use lubrication to masturbate because it is easy to generate marvelous pleasure simply by sliding the foreskin over the glans. This may trigger precum and naturally lubricate the penis head. However, several men I know who are intact and had rather tight foreskins tried coconut oil, found it helped loosen the foreskin, and they continue to use it now.

My suggestion is that you open your mind enough to try coconut oil. Many men I have turned on to it as lubrication call it a “game changer.” You can purchase 100% pure organic coconut oil (refined or not makes little difference) in food stores. At cooler room temperatures it may solidify into more of a solid white oil. But a few chunks on your fingers and palms rubbed briefly will melt nicely.

You’ve really got nothing to lose by trying lubrication when you masturbate, and possibly everything to gain. Most guys I know who try it, never look back!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.

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The Batemaster (Bruce P. Grether)

How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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