Ask The Batemaster: Cyberbating VS. Real Life

Develop your solo practice; those skills will come in handy when you actually find someone to share meaningful sessions with feelings, and in-person.

QUESTION: It’s a shame to have to beat off alone all the time. To share the experience gives it a whole new meaning and a whole new outcome. But how can I really achieve that in person, in the flesh, with real meaning and feeling?

RESPONSE: This is a great question! It’s also of relevance to many guys on this site, I’m certain. Given today’s Internet full of horny guys with cams who might be willing to masturbate with you online, at least in Cyberspace, there is no need to do it alone all the time. Most definitely this is one of the most wonderful things about digital realities, that you can potentially masturbate on cam with guys masturbating on cam anywhere on the planet!

Seems to me, however, that one key in your question is the phrase “with real meaning and feeling.” This may in fact require a willingness to get to know guys a bit more than just agreeing to share a session, then “Wham-bam-thank-you-sir!” Understandably, lots of guys are still just wanting to get off, and sometimes still unwilling to show their face to you on cam. Still, neither one of those helps you attain something more personal and individual.

There is nothing wrong with an impersonal cam session just to get off—only it is quite a different animal from the willingness to spend a little time getting to know each other, and then taking the time to slow down and really enjoy sharing your erections and self-pleasure sessions. This latter type of situation is far more fulfilling to me, personally.

Still, you’re also asking about how to achieve this in person, and in the flesh: in-person social masturbation. That may prove trickier, though in today’s world this is also improving. The Internet provides effective search functions, and particularly the only site that is actually all about it: Bateworld. To locate and connect with guys in your own area for actual masturbation sessions together may not be so easy. I don’t want to discourage you, but this is still pioneering territory, and hopefully a major wave of the future, especially to connect for sessions with real meaning and feeling.

In today’s world of male masturbation, there are “Jacks” clubs in many major cities. Though that can be sexually hot, it may not always be very personal. In such a group you may find men willing to make it a bit more meaningful, as well. There are special gatherings, such as the Cock Summit promoted on BW, and the Men’s Festivals, Midwestern and California.

You might try creating a group here on BW that is geared towards your area, and towards actually meeting for sessions. Be sure to get acquainted via online chat before you ever share a phone number in a private message. Not to be paranoid, but then talk on the phone for a while to get to know him. It’s also wise to set up a first meeting in a public place. Meet for coffee or lunch. If a guy is sincerely interested in more than a hasty jack-off, he should be willing to meet publicly first, and to get better acquainted.

Good luck finding Phallic Brothers to share with. It’s happening more and more these days, so even if it takes a while, don’t get discouraged. Meanwhile, develop your solo practice; those skills will come in handy when you actually find someone to share meaningful sessions with feeling, and in-person.

BRUCE P. GRETHER is the “BateMaster”. Mr. Grether’s lifelong love of penises and masturbation has led him to achieve a level of mastery and understanding of masturbation that is at once unique and extremely rare. He is renowned for both his ability to achieve seemingly endless states of prolonged and intense masturbatory pleasure as well as his skill in passing this knowledge on to his students. Mr. Grether has made it his life’s mission to encourage men to take their practice of masturbation to new levels of personal enrichment and self-discovery.

Mr. Grether is a globally recognized masturbation activist, an accomplished masturbation coach, and a tireless facilitator of masturbation workshops. In 2001 he coined the now popular term “Mindful Masturbation”. He is the author of a best-selling book, The Secret of the Golden Phallus, plus the erotic fantasy novels The Moontusk Chronicles. His website can be found at www.eroticengineering.com.

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

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