Bisexuality really exists.
QUESTION: I’m truly bisexual. With women I do whatever they like, and they seem to really appreciate me. With guys I actually understand better what they really want, and I get good reviews. I’ve also heard some people say all bisexuals are actually gay. What do you think?
RESPONSE: Bisexuality really exists. My feeling is the vast majority of men are somewhere along a bisexual spectrum. In fact, totally straight and totally gay are a lot rarer than people often think. It’s really not possible to separate out nature and nurture, that is your DNA from personal history and conditioning, with something so complex as human sexuality.
Still, if you have had sex with women and also with men, and you really enjoyed both, you are probably closer to the middle of that bisexuality spectrum than some other people. The idea that “bisexuals are actually gay” comes partly from the fact that many men use the self-label of being bisexual to make them feel more comfortable on the way to fully owning that they simply prefer sex with fellow men. In some cases, it is a temporary cover until deeper self-acceptance and confidence overcomes caring about the opinions of others too much.
Still, what you say about understanding what guys want better than what women want, is natural. In truth, you can make a good case for the idea that homosexuality, being gay, is more natural than trying to understand your biological opposite, which is women. To the extent that you know and understand and appreciate your own male body, this helps you to relate to fellow men. This flies in the face of the old assumption that heterosexuality is more natural, but that only reflects the fact that reproduction happens a lot in Nature.
As the second decade of the New Millennium ends, we are more aware than ever of a huge variety of gender variations beyond simple male/female binary, and beyond the simplistic three pigeonholes of straight, bi- and gay, even when you add transgender and queer.
It’s a wonderful thing if you can open yourself to a lot more options with a wider variety of partners than some guys. Regardless of who or what your lovers may be, most important of all is that you treat your partner with kindness, acceptance, and respect. Regardless, if you make the effort to learn about them, to know them better, you are also learning about yourself and knowing yourself better.
Regardless of your sexuality and its various nuances, if you love to masturbate and you masturbate as part of loving yourself better and better all the time, this also helps you become a better lover with others, and of course, with yourself!
Practice makes better and nobody needs to be perfect.
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This is so true:
“Bisexuality really exists. My feeling is the vast majority of men are somewhere along a bisexual spectrum. In fact, totally straight and totally gay are a lot rarer than people often think.”
Ick, I don’t want to actually have sex–oral or anal anything, but I do like JO buddies and admire a good looking cut cock, observing, mutual touching, etc. It’s enormously flattering for a guy to be admired by another guy and sharin responses, like orgasm.
I’m a happily married grandfather and totally bisexual. I’ve had sex since adolescence with males and females. I find the experience provides very different satisfaction. Still horny. Still sexually active. Still bisexual. Lucky me.