We learn from experience, however, that everyone who looks hot to us is not necessarily a person we really like much, if we get to know them.
QUESTION: I was raised by a single mom and never knew my dad at all, but I was never molested by anyone. A lot of hot young guys want to cam with me. I’m not much over 30 now, but the thing is, I’m really only attracted to much older guys, like at least 50+ maybe 80s, with white hair. Looks are not so important. Lots of guys don’t understand. What does this mean?
RESPONSE: Theories abound over why some guys are primarily attracted to other men of a certain age, either older or younger. In truth, nothing concerning human sexual preferences is simple or clear-cut. Some might suggest you are looking for a male role model, or that you had some earlier experience with guys closer to your age that disillusioned you about younger guys, as a category.
Often men have very specific “turn-ons” concerning appearance, such as muscular guys, thinner guys, ample dudes, hairy, or less hairy, facial hair or not. All sorts of specifics can be a turn on or a turn off for someone. We learn from experience, however, that everyone who looks hot to us is not necessarily a person we really like much, if we get to know them. Also, quite often they will not necessarily find you their “cat’s meow” in return! Try to keep an open mind about age.
In today’s world of social distancing and increased online socializing, how you might actually relate to someone in-person may not be so important as what happens when you cam or video conference. As long as someone is not rude or behaves obnoxiously to you, it may not matter so much what kind of person they truly are, if you enjoy masturbating to each other’s image.
Still, in the long-run and in person, decent behavior and personality turn out to be truly important.
You may or may not ever be able to figure out a specific explanation for why you are far more strongly attracted to older and even white-haired men than to others. In these days of “epigenetics,” some would suspect it could even be partly inherited through your DNA. Personal history might be more plausible, including impressions you may have gotten at a very early age and do not consciously remember.
Most important is to accept yourself as you are. Understand that while others may not share or accept or appreciate your specific preference, it is probably because they feel left out, or insulted. Too bad, but actually that’s their problem. Older guys will probably appreciate it!
Plus, with older guys, there’s often a better chance you will encounter men with emotional maturity, interesting depth of experience, a relaxed attitude, and something that turns you on!
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
