Though every man loves ejaculation, there are great rewards beyond it!
QUESTION: Hi Bate Master Bruce! I’m in my 80’s, and still masturbate often, usually every day. Most often I don’t even need a pill for my erections, unless I want it extra hard, or for a longer time. I’ve noticed, though, your semen retention ideas work well for me. If I don’t cum, I’m fine day after day. When I do ejaculate, I’m tired and not much interested in sex for at least two days after, or more. Is this usual?
RESPONSE: With age, that “refractory period,” meaning how long it takes before you want stimulation again or can get an erection, tends to get longer. Though every man loves ejaculation, there are great rewards beyond it! “Edging,” usually seems to involve keeping yourself as close to “ejaculatory inevitability” for as long as possible. Sometimes men choose not to end their sessions with ejaculation for days at a time, a practice often called “cum denial,” in which men may proudly count the days since they last came.
These practices can certainly open the doors of perception for a lot of men, to discover realms of pure penis pleasure beyond anything you’ve felt before. However, what I mean by “semen retention” takes the basic idea but does not focus exclusively upon keeping so close to the edge all the time. My practice is strongly influenced by both the Bengali Tantra from ancient India and the Taoist Erotic Cultivation techniques which also go back many centuries.
The Taoist teaching is that every time you ejaculate, it weakens you, and that you have only so much energy at your command in this lifetime. Thus, to ejaculate regularly and often eventually weakens you, leads to poor health and premature aging. The opposite is the man who learns to “cultivate” his erotic energy, ejaculating far less often, something like a gardener growing a beautiful garden. He “tends the plants” with loving care, which is believed to result in vibrant health, youthfulness, and long life.
Though I do not take these beliefs literally, like many ancient traditions, there are seeds of truth to the teachings. At the same time, I have personally known extraordinary masturbators who ejaculate every single day. In your teens, 20’s and 30’s, or even later, you may feel the urge to ejaculate two or three times a day or more, as I always did. Your emotional state and energy can be sort of of a roller-coaster, with a major dip after each ejaculation.
The flip side is more dramatic: starting in middle age, a man may benefit dramatically from ejaculating far less often, no more than once every few days, or even once a week or every few weeks. In between ejaculatory orgasms, you may learn to give yourself dry orgasm, multiple dry orgasms, and full body orgasms—all without ejaculation. These are incredibly rewarding!
You will feel more vibrantly energized, yet quite calm and serene the rest of the time. You must learn to keep the pelvis relaxed during arousal to avoid “blue balls,” but otherwise you are also “ready to play” almost any time. IN my experience, semen retention is highly beneficial.
Sometimes I’m asked how often I ejaculate these days, and I usually say, “Not often!” So, congratulations, Sir! It’s a spectacular journey, is it not?
A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.
Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.
