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Ask The Batemaster: Leaking Semen Without Orgasming

Pearl-After-Pearl!

Ask The Batemaster LogoQUESTION: How can I give myself small ejaculations or semen releases without actually orgasming?

RESPONSE: Among the endless nuances of male masturbatory excellence are the refinements of what guys call “edging,” dry orgasms, or continuous orgasmic states. Edging generally means spending a lot of time highly aroused, close to orgasm, but not quite going over the edge into ejaculation—at least not until you’re ready to surrender and go over that irreversible Niagara Falls of oblivion.

This is a great skill worth developing. It becomes its own reward, as you discover more intense levels of penis ecstasy, more prolonged states of bliss this way than you can achieve if you have an ejaculatory orgasm more often. Many “edgers” go for days without ejaculating, even weeks or months.

A bit more tricky is to deliberately release small amounts of seminal fluids without actually orgasming or ejaculating a full load. Of course, many guys do emit some of what we call “precum,” clear and exquisitely slimy from the tip-end of the penis. Certain guys emit a lot of this, others none at all: it’s all good. However, a small “pearl” or blob of actual semen, cloudy and thick white may emerge from time-to-time during high arousal, although this is not easy to achieve deliberately.

What may help is while you’re in high arousal close to ejaculating, flex your perineum, the band of muscle between the back of your scrotum and your anus. Clench around the base of the scrotum with muscles, not fingers. Also, work with noticing the “pee-stopper” muscle inside your body behind the base of your penis. This is actually located just below your bladder. You can practice noticing it by interrupting your stream of urine, do a stop/start/stop/start/stop routine and pay attention to just where this muscle is located is. Pay very close attention, and practice, practice, practice.

Such releases do not usually become entirely voluntary, not like just consciously pushing a button. It’s a lot more likely you can emit pearl or a string of pearls riding really close to the edge for a long time but not going over—which is, of course, its own reward! You can practice this in conjunction with the “dry orgasm” technique I’ve written about in other columns. Sometimes in a high state, I do find myself emitting pearl-after-pearl without full ejaculation.

Good luck and enjoy your journey. It may be best not to fixate on an exact result in this case, but certainly trying for it cannot hurt, in fact, it should feel incredibly good!

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The Bate Master - Bruce P. GretherBRUCE P. GRETHER is the “BateMaster”. Mr. Grether’s lifelong love of penises and masturbation has led him to achieve a level of mastery and understanding of masturbation that is at once unique and extremely rare. He is renowned for both his ability to achieve seemingly endless states of prolonged and intense masturbatory pleasure as well as his skill in passing this knowledge on to his students. Mr. Grether has made it his life’s mission to encourage men to take their practice of masturbation to new levels of personal enrichment and self-discovery.

Mr. Grether is a globally recognized masturbation activist, an accomplished masturbation coach, and a tireless facilitator of masturbation workshops. In 2001 he coined the now popular term “Mindful Masturbation”. He is the author of a best-selling book, The Secret of the Golden Phallus, plus the erotic fantasy novels The Moontusk Chronicles. His website can be found at www.eroticengineering.com.

Check out Bruce’s newest book “The 9 Realities of Stardust” – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ydvIbkdXehI

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A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.


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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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  1. I’m glad that other men can do this too. I’ve been edging for years and every time I can push out a nice amount of sperm without cummming.
    It’s such an awesome feeling and great to taste.
    Everyone enjoy their next snack. I know I will.

      1. I’m glad to hear that other men like to taste their own cum. I edge for weeks and almost every time I start a session, a bit of cum spurts out. I catch it in my hand and either lick it off immediately or hold it up and let it drip into my mouth or tongue and that almost sends me over the edge.

  2. I had a gf that could push against me, near my rectum and I would orgasm many times but not cum at all. Where did she push and hold me exactly? I was on my back, she was at my feet stroking me with one hand and the other hand pushing on the magic spot. I had multiple orgasms each time but would not cum a drop. I was read to go at any time because I only came every now and then when I wanted a huge explosion. P

    1. That’s great! Not sure exactly where she was pushing, or why that worked… if she was not inside your rectum, where an aroused and swollen prostate can be rubbed through the tissue wall. For some men, including me, you can actually press against the prostate indirectly and get some incredible waves of pleasure by rubbing on the perineum, that ride of muscle in front of the anus. I’ve also developed the ability over the years, to push my pelvic diaphragm down, internally against the swollen prostate, which is also indescribably delicious! Thanks for sharing! — BPG

  3. I can do this. I used to do it to my ex during foreplay when she would suck on my penis. She didn’t want to let me cum in her mouth but I would be kneeling next to her head, fingering her vagina and she would lick my shaft and balls with the occasional shove in the mouth. When i would get close I would take my penis in my hand and let it dribble a few pearls on her mouth and tongue. She was so aroused that she didn’t even notice. I would do this 3 or 4 times before I would do oral on her to give me time to come down then we would move to intercourse. I frequently do it while masturbating and release into my hand and lick it up. I wish I could teach this to other guys so that I can get an appetizer while I edge them!