A Sensitive Penis
Question:
Hi Dr. Bate,
Thanks so much in advance for taking the time to reply to my inquiry.
I have an uncircumcised penis, which I love. But, it’s also sensitive. I love bating and all, but because my dick head is sensitive, I just can’t edge for long periods of time like many bator friends on here. Wish I could. What techniques can I try to increase the time I can edge without releasing?
Thanks for reading,
_Chris
Answer:
Hello Chris,
Thank you for sharing your experience and your concerns regarding your sensitive uncut penis head. Having a sensitive penis head can be a great thing, and it can also be rather intense at times. Although I do not have an uncircumcised penis, I do have some suggestions for you to try in your edging sessions.
First of all, you can try pulling your foreskin closed over your cock head while you bate so that there is not direct hand stimulation on the head of your penis. Direct stimulation on an uncircumcised penis head can be so sensitive that it becomes painful.
You may also want to experiment with thicker lubrications, such as Vaseline or Albolene, to buffer the sensation of your cock.
Another suggestion that you can try to extend your edging sessions is to vary your stroke when your penis head becomes too sensitive. Explore the entirety of your penis with your stroke, not just the head of your penis, moving all the way down to the base of your cock. When you feel close to the edge, bring your stroke down the shaft of your cock and stay there until your cock head feels less sensitive and then continue with fuller, longer strokes.
Along with using longer, fuller strokes, you can also focus on slowing your breath down to regulate your arousal better.
Give yourself permission to slow down the speed of your stroke and experiment with increasing and decreasing the pressure or squeeze of your hand while you bate.
As every penis is unique in what it responds to, exploring these different suggestions in your edging bate sessions is the only way to find out what will work for you.
I would like to take this opportunity to open this question up to our bate brothers who own their very own uncut cock. What has worked for you? Please share your experiences, strengths, and techniques regarding navigating the sensitivity of your uncut members.
Have fun exploring your sensitive uncut penis,
Toby
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Curbing Premature EjaculationQuestion:
Hi Dr. Bate,
I love to shoot multiple loads, but my man is a “1 and done” guy. We have tried many different things to “slow” him down, so he doesn’t shoot before I am fully drained. A couple of the things we have tried are tight cock rings around his shaft and desensitizing gel but have not reduced him shooting enough for me to shoot 2-3 or even four times. Do you have any idea of how to slow him down so we can end our sessions both fully drained together and soaked in cum?
Thanks for your advice.
-Brian
Answer:
Thank you for your question Brian as it touches on a subject that many men wrestle with – premature ejaculation. I’m not entirely sure this is your partner’s issue, but the skills I will discuss below could potentially help if you and he are seeking to prolong his pleasure.
First things first, however. Most guys are the “1 and done” type. Most men just aren’t multi-ejaculating. Also there is a difference between having an orgasm and ejaculating. But that’s a topic for another time.
If you and your partner desire for him to cum at the tail end of your marathon session then here are some tips:
Slow the fuck down!
This is exactly what I tell my clients (of course with far more light-heartedness). Part of the reason some guys ejaculate quickly is because they are just going too fast. Part of learning to prolong your masturbation is learning to slow down. Take longer strokes up and down the shaft and not just concentrate around the head of the penis. Go slow and learn some different strokes that aren’t just up and down and up and down. There are many ways to pleasure a cock that’s beyond the typical up and down stroke. Explore what feels good.
Breathe and Relax
This is a very important practice in prolonging masturbation. When we are climbing the ladder of arousal our breath tends to become very shallow and our body tenses. This means that instead of the energy cycling through our entire body, it is being concentrated in the groin. And with energy that has no release valve, it will eventually explode. Learn how to breathe diaphragmatically – from the belly, up into the lungs, and then out. Be conscious of where your breath is as you approach orgasm and/or ejaculation. Imagine breathing and cycling that energy throughout your entire body.
Back off
Simply put, if your partner feels like he is about to cum, then encourage him to take his hand off his cock and do some deep breath cycles. Also cultivate an internal barometer of arousal – when is far too far? A great tool for that is what I call the arousal scale.
Using a 0-10 scale, 0 being no arousal at all and 10 meaning he’s having an orgasm or ejaculating, have your partner pay close attention to where he is on that scale. If he’s getting closer to a 10 and he doesn’t want to cum yet, see if he can incorporate some of the above techniques to head back down the ladder. Also, see if he can discover what it is that moves him up the ladder faster. Continue to play with this scale until he has a better sense of his body and how to play with his energy’s intensity.
Change hands or positions
Sometimes one of the easiest ways to climb slower up the ladder of arousal is to change what is habitual. If he has a dominant bating hand, then have him change hands. If he usually bates in a certain position, then have him change positions. If he sits, have him stand. If he lies down, have him squat, etc. Try different positions and techniques. Perhaps you could bate him for a while for a different sensation, altogether.
Ultimately, the best way to prolong masturbation is to learn your body. Get better acquainted with it. Learn what turns it on and what doesn’t. How does your body process and direct energy and arousal? One of the best ways to prolong pleasure is to just listen and pay attention to the body itself and learn to direct its energy flow.
I believe this will help tremendously. Thanks again for the great question!
In prolonged bliss,
Garland J.
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Garland Jarmon heralds from 7 years as an HIV/AIDS educator and sexual health counselor for individuals and couples. Having a Masters in Social Work and now as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, he seeks to help all those in the LGBTQIA, straight, and Bator community live a more wholesome and embodied life, full of mindfulness and conscious exploration.
Toby de Luca comes from a background in Education and Massage Therapy. With a Masters in Teaching and also as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, he to assist folks in facilitating stronger, healthier relationships with their own bodies and their relationships with others.
Together they co-own their own Sex and Erotic Coaching business — Spiritual Eros (www.SpiritualEros.com). They desire to bring to the BateWorld Community an opportunity to have an open and honest discussion about issues that many of us face. They believe that everything is an experiment and that the only failed experiment is one you don’t collect the data from. They also understand that because their answers may not fit every lived experience, they welcome community members to offer their own experiences, challenges, and triumphs. They are proponents that healthy community creates healthier lives…and healthy lives, healthier communities!
Garland and Toby are Sexologists and as such are NOT medical doctors or therapists. The opinions, suggestions, and advice given are not meant to be in lieu of your primary care physician’s medical advice. If you are concerned about a medical condition or have a medical emergency, PLEASE contact your doctor, urgent care, or emergency room!
Brothers, we encourage you to exercise your best and highest wisdom and intuition!
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I am 70 years old and masturbate regularly since my 9th year of age daily. That is 62 years. In this time I masturbated about 27 367 times. Even now masturbieren I still average 1.9 times a week. A wear I can not determine it is still fun.
Since I am 55 years old, I realize that the sensitivity of the glans is diminishing.
Each organ responds to stress.
Examples:
Hands disguised by heavy work.
The soles of the feet become thicker and less sensitive by foot walking.
The glans (glans) will become less sensitive because the skin becomes thicker.
Etc.
When masturbating at a mean masturbation frequency of about 12 Hz and an average masturbation period of 2 min, 27 367 times, the foreskin has been made about 39 024 000 times. I also think the glans reacts.
I can still remember how sensitive the glans was at the beginning of the masturbation with about 9 years. The hitch was almost unbearable so I had to interrupt the masturbation.
This has normalized over time so that I could always masturbate with pleasure.
It was only around the age of 50 that the sensitivity decreased noticeably.
But even now, with 70 years, I still manage to masturbate with pleasure.
I begin with the 3 finger method, i. Medium and index finger on the bottom of the penis and thumb up. When the excitement potential increases, I take the whole hand as before.
Butter has proven to be best in the course of time.
I suspect that this has reduced the frequency of masturbation per week from a maximum of 19.6 times / week to 1.9 times / week. From about 45 years the masturbation frequency begins to ease. I have therefore the exact numbers because I have for interest a sexualtage book led. So I am already of the opinion that masturbation is an important and beautiful sexual activity.
However, I now exactly the same problem, in the Sex obviously the riding is not enough and the penis often coincides with me. In addition, I can get an ejaculation only by post-masturbation. Does anyone have similar problems?
I perform the electromasturbation about 1 to 2 times a month.
In order to get the best masturbation I recommend to remove the Frenulum Praeputii.
The advantages are:
1. The foreskin can be pulled further backwards, so a larger stroke is possible during masturbation and the foreskin is more mobile.
2. The penis looks better because the foreskin folds almost foldless backwards.
3. The penis is much better kept clean.
I completely removed the Frenulum with three interventions myself, according to the following method.
Prerequisite is clean and sterile work, i. Wash hands and penis thoroughly and sterilize the site of infection.
First I dipped the penis about 5 min in ice water, then you can not notice the cut. After the sterilization of the frenulum, I cut the Frenulum with a sharp scissors in the middle to Glans (acorn) underside.
It does not panic. Next I inserted a sterile gauze roll into the wound and the foreskin closed (wound adhesively otherwise). Then I closed the foreskin with a strip of adhesive plaster and a condom pulled over, if some blood emerged (which was not the case).
The next morning, I carefully opened the foreskin (the bleeding had already stopped) and urinated after the disinfecting of the wound a new gauze roll and the foreskin closed again. But so that I can open the tackle easily to urinate. After a week, the wound had already healed so well that I could masturbate again carefully. By the way the pain hold itself within limits is easy to withstand.
After a few months after the wound had healed, I first removed the rest of the frenulum on the glans side, and after which the healed well was also removed on the foreskin side by the same method. In the end, I cut out a triangle, so to speak. With the result I am very satisfied.
Great questions and responses, amazing techniques and useful information about enjoying the pleasures of edging and practical advice for reducing premature ejaculation…but also maybe Brian should be asking himself why he needs to “shoot 2-3 or even four times” before feeling satisfied with his partner?