Ask Dr. Bate

EDITOR’S NOTE: We’re so pleased to welcome Garland Jarmon and Toby DeLuca to TheBatorBlog’s Ask Dr. Bate column. If you’d like to submit questions, please email them at [email protected].

Dear Dr. Bate,


Toby:

Thank you for posing such an interesting question in a religious/political context. I would first like to say… never take sexual advice from a politician! Ever! No really!

Political and religious views will never change what nature has deemed innate. Politics and religion can make their mandates, and people can choose to follow certain practices because of those mandates, but nature, in the form of your body, cannot be mandated. For example, a man can choose to never PURPOSEFULLY ejaculate via masturbation, but the body, created as an innate sexual being, will ejaculate without purposeful provocation. This is best exemplified by the “Wet Dream” where your body will viscerally respond to an erotic dream by ejaculating in your sleep.

Also, it is possible, as I have personally experienced, through bouts of abstinence from masturbation/ejaculation, that ejaculate can build up to the point that you can actually secrete ejaculate while defecating (pooping).

And yes, research has proven that regular ejaculation can lessen the risk of prostate cancer. Regularly flushing your system, so to speak, prevents the build up of cancer-causing chemicals.

So there you have it! Never ask a politician about your sex life and enjoy cumming all you want!

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Garland:

This is a great question as it DOES affect many of us.

Here’s something to remember – Penile care doesn’t just begin after your masturbation session is over. It begins before with the types of lube you select, during with the toys, strokes, or other conscious ways you brings your penis pleasure, and after. Most body parts, when used extensively will, in time, need rest. It’s not recommended to keep firing on all cylinders constantly (much to the chagrin of many of my fellow bators out there). The brain needs rest, muscles, after working out, need rest, the heart needs rest, the entire body needs rest. Rest is good, healthy, and necessary!

Your penis needs rest as well. This is the third part of your penile care – rest! I recommend after extensive bating, that you give your penis some time to recuperate before launching into the batehole again. Remember, we want to respect, listen, and obey our bodies. If you take care of it, it should give you many more years of pleasure.

Now, more directly to your question. This might take some experimenting as each owner of penis has different needs, allergies, and sensitivities. For instance, after years of using Albolene as a bate lube; I discovered that my penis was having an adverse reaction around the crown. I have since switched to coconut oil and have had no issues.

If you are experiencing soreness/redness there are a few things you can try in conjunction with rest (mileage may vary):

• Try a non-inflammatory cream and/or soothing/moisturizing lotions- Most of these creams are over the counter and may be useful for remedying some soreness.
• Epsom Salt bath – Epsom salt is also a non-inflammatory agent and warm water can also potentially relieve the soreness as well. However, be careful not to go too hot.
• Warm/Cold compresses – Although warm compresses might feel soothing, there is a potential for it not. Heat expands blood vessels and can potentially have the adverse reaction you desire. Try cold compresses as well and see which one gives you the most comfort.
• Castor Oil – In our business we use castor oil to help break up scar tissue. Castor oil also has the potential of relieving aches and pains.

As with all suggestions made here, if any of your symptoms continue or worsen consult your physician.

I also want to open to forum for other guys who have other tried-and-true methods they would like to contribute to the topic! What works for you guys? Would love to hear your suggestions.

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Garland Jarmon heralds from 7 years as an HIV/AIDS educator and sexual health counselor for individuals and couples. Having a Masters in Social Work and now as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, he seeks to help all those in the LGBTQIA, straight, and Bator community live a more wholesome and embodied life, full of mindfulness and conscious exploration.

Toby de Luca comes from a background in Education and Massage Therapy. With a Masters in Teaching and also as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, he to assist folks in facilitating stronger, healthier relationships with their own bodies and their relationships with others.

Together they co-own their own Sex and Erotic Coaching business — Spiritual Eros (www.SpiritualEros.com). They desire to bring to the BateWorld Community an opportunity to have open and honest discussion about issues that many of us face. They believe that everything is an experiment and that the only failed experiment is one you don’t collect the data from. They also understand that because their answers may not fit every lived experience, they welcome community members to offer their own experiences, challenges, and triumphs. They are proponents that healthy community creates healthier lives…and healthy lives, healthier communities!

Garland and Toby are Sexologists and as such are NOT medical doctors or therapists. The opinions, suggestions, and advice given are not meant to be in lieu of your primary care physician’s medical advice. If you are concerned about a medical condition or have a medical emergency, PLEASE contact your doctor, urgent care, or emergency room!

Brothers, we encourage you to exercise your best and highest wisdom and intuition!

If you’d like to submit questions, please email them to [email protected].