Breathe slowly and deeply, as tools in your kit of masturbation skills and tactics.

QUESTION:

You often talk about deep breathing and the bate. I mean, I know breathing keeps us alive, right? But can you explain better how it relates to the bate?

RESPONSE:

Thank you for asking! This is a great and important subject for all male masturbators to consider. There are several good reasons to use breathing consciously. Breathe slowly and deeply, as tools in your kit of masturbation skills and tactics. Often, we allow breathing to just continue without thinking, so make yourself aware of your breathing.

Do some deep breathing before you start your session, because it helps you relax. Erection is part of the relaxation response—opposite to the fight/flight response of threat and stress. Sit straight, spine upright, and breathe slowly and deeply all the way down into your belly, and without a pause. Keep it slow, seriously slow and deep, then exhale naturally.  This is the opposite of tense, shallow, upper chest breathing.

Do at least three slow and deep belly breaths before you start. You will feel a shift to a more relaxed state. Overall, work to consciously slow down, pay close attention to what you are doing and notice every moment of sensation. This is what mindfulness is—simply paying close attention.

Breathing deeply can also help you to make ejaculation a choice, to avoid ejaculating before you truly wish to allow it to happen. Anytime you start to find your arousal growing so intense it approaches that “zone of no return,” pause. Take another deep, deep breath, or several. Something you may not notice until you pay close attention to the lead-in to ejaculation is that you may tend to start holding your breath or breathing shallow and tensing up certain muscle groups before you shoot your wad.

Breathing deeply can also help you to make ejaculation a choice, to avoid ejaculating before you truly wish to allow it to happen.

To prolong your pleasure, whether you call it edging or semen retention, the kind of breathing described above is one way to back off before it’s too late. This helps you to explore higher and higher states of pure penis pleasure. 

The skills to prolong and intensify your pleasure are totally worth some effort. They begin with conscious breathing. One of the next steps can be, rather than remove your hand or hands from your penis when you get close, just slow down, keep hold, and consciously breathe deeply.

In what I call Mindful Masturbation, keeping alert and paying close attention while you masturbate, breathing is just the first of many useful tools in the process!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at BateWorld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.