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This rocks beyond belief! Feels so great, I can hardly stand it! But is it anal sex?

We at BateWorld encourage self-pleasure any and all ways that give you pleasure. Please view the Community Guidelines and Terms of Service to understand what is and is not allowed on bateworld.com 

QUESTION:

My bud and I like to bate each other for hours! Sometimes he’ll stick a lubed finger in my butthole while he strokes my lubed cock. This rocks beyond belief! Feels so great, I can hardly stand it! But is it anal sex? Is it banned on BW? (Please reference Community Guidelines and TOS above.)

RESPONSE:

I’m not 100% sure of every detail of what is and is not allowed on BW (Please see CG and TOS linked above). But in terms of photos or vids, I am quite sure that any kind of insertion of a penis, either oral or anal is not allowed. In the case of inserting a finger, I think this may be different, but I’m quite sure that it’s okay to speak of digital insertion, that is pushing a finger into your anus.

Of course, as you are probably well-aware, this is an effective way to stimulate the prostate of a friend, or your own. Any kind of insertion into your anus in your own real life will not likely proceed quite like things you see in porn, where huge things may slide in quickly and easily. Most porn is not effective sex education.

Be sure you stimulate your penis intensely for a while before you even touch your anus externally, maybe for at least10 or 20 minutes. Use plenty of lube, make sure your fingernails are clipped short and filed smooth and clean underneath the nail before you attempt this.

To make sure you are already well aroused via penis stimulation means it’s likely that your prostate will also become aroused. This usually takes quite a bit longer than your penis requires to become erect. Your prostate, inside your body at the base of your bladder behind the topside of the root of your penis, will swell up and harden somewhat. This makes it more obvious to a probing finger, and far more sensitive to pressure through the wall of your rectum. To the owner of the prostate this may feel strange the first time or two, but then proves dramatically blissful!

Perhaps your bate buddy who inserts his finger and then strokes your lubricated penis knows all these things? Regardless, these are useful things for any male masturbator to be aware of! Indeed, to combine pressure or rhythmic internal finger nudges and strokes against your prostate through the rectal wall during arousal will intensify your penis pleasure dramatically!

Whether or not you consider this “anal sex” is a matter of definition. You are stimulating your prostate (or that of your friend) through a digital insertion process. In that sense it is anal because that’s how you get in there.

The anus actually has two sphincters. The outer one is smaller and under voluntary control, such as when, quite frankly, you eliminate, or you hold it in. The inner, bigger sphincter just inside a bit further, mainly relaxes and allows insertion when you really want to be penetrated. 

Whether or not you consider this “anal sex” is a matter of definition. You are stimulating your prostate (or that of your friend) through a digital insertion process. In that sense it is anal because that’s how you get in there.

Take your time, get clean first with a good shower or bath. Then dance and play a fingertip on the surface of the anus, what is called the “rosebud” by some, before you attempt to enter. Take your time, be gentle, and the rewards, as you said, will “rock!”

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.

 

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How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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  1. When it comes to acceptable activities amongst bators, it’s a very fluid and personal thing.

    Initially, I like a completely hands-off/no-touch experience… at least for the first couple of sessions with the same guy. For me, that’s the real eroticism… but that’s just me: 100% voyeur. 100% exhibitionist.

    But as we get to know one another, mutual masturbation and pleasuring the other guy becomes paramount. If this involves digital (or other objects) inserted into your buddy’s ass, then so be it. The main goal is to enhance his masturbation experience.

    The “art” is to keep the focus on his self-pleasure where masturbation is the goal.