“Some men consider the tongue as a sort of “upper penis” for it is extremely sensitive!”

QUESTION:

I’ve got some great bate buddies, which is a huge blessing in my life! But unless they will kiss deeply and pinch my nips really hard, almost to a painful intensity, I can’t come with them. Sometimes they even tease me and won’t do it! I can finish myself when that happens. But why am I like this? Aren’t they being mean when they tease me?

RESPONSE:

Keep in mind that teasing is usually an expression of affection. Yes, to some extent your buddies are being “mean” when they tease you this way while you bate with them, refusing to “French kiss” or to pinch your nipples hard. Plus, affectionate teasing can be a nice way to prolong your enjoyment. Why not relax into it and not take it too seriously? This could make it even hotter when they cooperate!

Clearly you are blessed, as there are plenty of men out there who would love to have even one nice guy who loves to masturbate with them. You’ve got more than one! Though your buddies may tease you this way sometimes, delaying your final orgasm, that’s not the worst thing you could experience.

As to why you have these preferences, which may qualify as a kind of fetish, it is probably somewhat complex and not necessarily easy to figure out. Still, there is nothing wrong with such erotic triggers, so long as you don’t limit your options. You may have had earlier experiences with deep kissing, or with powerful stimulation of your nipples. You may have what amounts to a kind of oral fixation for the kind of kissing that excites you so much. Some men consider the tongue as a sort of “upper penis” for it is extremely sensitive!

“There is nothing wrong with such erotic triggers, so long as you don’t limit your options.”

As for your nipples, again you can count this as a blessing, that your nipples are so sensitive and seem hard-wired into your ejaculatory reflex mechanisms. The sensitivity of male nipples varies in a wide range. Some men feel their nipples have little or no sensitivity, while others have some sensation, others more extreme. Men who enjoy nipple sensitivity often seem to be wired more so on one side, left or right, for optimum nipple pleasure. Whatever the case, my experience is that most men have some potential nipple sensitivity. It can certainly be developed with attention to your nipples while you masturbate.

In recent times I’ve developed a nipple sensitivity training I call the “Expressway Y.” Stimulate the frenulum at the underside of the head of your penis, (or the entire head, if your frenulum is not so sensitive) with one hand, while you pinch and twirl a nipple at the same time. Move the upper hand across to the other nipple. Notice how this forms a diagram shape like a capital letter Y. Then switch hands, using the upper hand on your penis again, and the first hand to stimulate each nipple in turn. This practice will actually wire new neural pathways for pleasure into your body!

Some teasing can be truly mean, but in your case, it is probably just a sign of the affection your bate buddies have for you!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.

The Batemaster (Bruce P. Grether)

How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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