Get Hip While You Unzip (Learn The Bator Lingo)
When you start a new job, take up a new hobby, or even begin hanging out with a new group of friends, there is often a language that everyone else speaks that you don’t know yet.
The world of serious bators is no different. Not long ago I was just getting to know my way around this amazing community of proud wiener-wankers, and I often found myself Googling certain bator terms with one hand while stroking with the other.
Let me save you the interruption of your bate session if you’re a newbie, and we’ll start with a couple of very basic bator terms you will hear over and over as you go deeper into your masturbation and connect with more of your fellow bate buds.
EDGING
“Edging” is the art of bringing yourself to the brink of orgasm and then pulling back just before you come. Once you’re able to touch yourself again without immediately blasting your cumrag with sperm, start slowly masturbating again and repeat the cycle. The goal is to keep yourself in this state of heightened arousal, riding “the edge” of orgasm, for as long as possible.
Many of us serious bators take pride in the fact that we can masturbate for hours and hours if we choose to do so. And this is because we have practiced our edging skills for years. While styles vary, note that most of us who are edging are stroking at a fairly slow speed as opposed to jackhammering our dicks as fast as we can which is usually a surefire way to orgasm. Think slow strokes, taking in each incredible sensation your penis affords you while breathing deeply. Adept edgers can remain in this blissful (and yes, also sort of torturous) state for as long as we have time for.
Adept edgers can remain in this blissful state for as long as we have time for.
If I know that I won’t be able to start stroking again later in the day, I usually choose to ejaculate eventually, although coming is never the goal for most edging experts. Coming for me ultimately means that the fun’s over for now, but I do love to end a long session by feeling/seeing/smelling that warm sticky cum shoot out of my cock. For me, all that semen signals a job well done.
Some other bators, however, prefer not to end a long session with ejaculation. Which brings us to our next section.
CUM DENIAL
Before I got deep into the world of bating, I had never heard of “cum denial” and I was confused when some new bate buds bragged about being “uncummed.” This means basically exactly what it says: If you’re into cum denial (semen retention) and staying uncummed, then you are into not letting yourself ejaculate. But my question as a newbie bator was not so much what this might mean, but more why would anyone do it when spraying cum out of your dickhole is the best?
Cum denial essentially takes edging to a new level. The reason I like to end a long bate session by ejaculating is because I can then focus on other things in my life rather than only thinking about my cock and dreaming of when I’m going to be beating off again. But a pro cum-denier knows that if he masturbates regularly but doesn’t let himself ejaculate, his penis will get more and more sensitive every day.
This heightened sensitivity in turn keeps you horny, aroused and penis-focused pretty much all the time.
If you have edged your cock several times over several days, but didn’t let yourself shoot, you will be more aware of your penis than you ever have been before. Even if you’re just sitting at your desk at work, you will feel every graze of your cockhead against your underwear intensely. Walking down the street, the flop of your penis against your shorts will feel incredible. This heightened sensitivity in turn keeps you horny, aroused and penis-focused pretty much all the time.
Does this sound like fun to you, bator? Give it a try for a few days and see if cum denial might be your thing.
Do you have other bator terms that you’re confused about? Drop them in the comments and we’ll talk about some new terms and techniques to get you speaking like the pro masturbator you’re meant to be in no time flat.
Here is an extensive list of some Popper Terminology
For more articles by BateWorld member and author Digg, go here.
Like many passionate masturbators, over time I’ve become quite adept at edging, but I confess that ejaculation has always been my “reward” for a good stroking session. While I have engaged in “cum denial,” it was only part of my preparation for a shared masturbation with my wife, so that I could display a nice load.
As we all know, there’s no right or wrong way to masturbate, but for me there’s no purpose or thrill in any extended “cum denial.”
Learning to edge was the next logical step in my life long masturbation history. About 4 years ago, after I retired and had more time on my hands, I simply wanted to extend my bate sessions in order to prolong my pleasure, (you all know what I mean by that). At that time my average bate session was 30-45 minutes. I started by establishing goals. One hour, then an hour and a half, 2, 2 1/2 , 3, 3 1/2, 4. I wanted to reach four hours. It didn’t happen overnight but over the course of a year. As I disciplined myself to resist cumming and stroking longer it became easier. I have since exceeded my 4 hour goal and have gone as long as 9 hours straight. My best masturbation session ever was an 8 hour session back on Mothers Day 2020. I find I can go pretty much as long or as short as I wish. It is all dependent on how much time I have available to me, i.e. how long my wife will be gone. I do stroke slowly as you mention in your commentary. I highly recommend edging to all masturbators-you will not be sorry-guaranteed.
So does it make you last longer while having regular sex with a partner?
Absolutely
How big is a penis
There’s a variant of edging that includes cum denial – it’s the multiple dry orgasmic technique explained by Batemaster Bruce Grether elsewhere in the masturbation techniques pages on BW. Basically, ,when you get near the point of ejaculatory inevitability you consciously release your “pee stopper” muscle – which takes some practice. The body is “wired” to not pee and come at the same time. When you tell yourself to pee and continue stroking the result is a little non-ejaculatory orgasm. There can be a release of pre-come (you can tell by the taste) just before the orgasm. I usually do a minimum of 20 orgasms spaced about a minute or 50 slow strokes apart, although I’ve done as many as 50 in a row. The cumulative effect of 20 dry orgasms is better than a wet one: whole body gets charged with erotic energy yet you’re relaxed. An hour or two later I can repeat. I lose so much energy cumming that it usually takes several days to a week before my 78 yo body even wants to bate again, so this has become my usual practice.
During my daily bate sessions, I luv to ride the intense, porn-fueled edge for many hours. Most of the time, I ejaculate at the conclusion. Other times, I also engage in cum denial for a few days or even a week or two. I prefer to call it “ejaculation deferrral.” In fact, I will be participating in No Nut November 2021. Last year, I made it through 21 days before tumbling over the edge due some incredibly hot porn.
Love edging for or days its awsome but I qould to try with partner I m always solo
Same here . Solo. But edge the cock for days. It’s awesome for sure.
I cum SO much harder if I deny my orgasm for many hours — or days. But particularly when I bate for four or more hours, when it becomes impossible to take another stroke without coming, I prepare mentally for how good it is going to feel then carefully begin bating with the reward in mind. I’m older, and when I finally fall over the cliff, I find myself moaning like a girl and coming for at least a minute or more. I’m a dishrag after a good orgasm — I kind of go out of my head and thrash around. I’d love to have a video of it, LOL. Any batorcams out there ready to watch a hard orgasm? Fun, guys, fun!
I want to experiment with telling my body to pee and then stroking — with the result of a non-ejaculatory orgasm. Damn, sounds so hot. Try it with me, bators.
Other guys have certainly also discovered what I do sometimes, but if you haven’t, try edging as long as you choose to ride that wave and enjoy the entire ride, but then when you DO decide to fly off your highest wave, you can let your cockshaft quickly fill with your semen so that when it does get filled completely up to the inside of your cockhead, just let your mind instantly flash back to a time when you were on the Interstate and needed so SO badly to piss as you are desperately held it back while waiting for the closest “rest stop” and then finally you’ve arrived, you have awkwardly gotten to the mensroom, found a urinal, and then find that nothing happens. You’ve been clenching your urethra so firmly for so long that you now need to intentionally FOCUS on relaxing and releasing that inner muscle… sooooo… let go NOW, while pissing, but you are actually spurting out your semen (instead of, or even sometimes mixed with pee if you’re been holding back that as well)… the sensation from pissing out cum is really astounding because you’re cumming and peeing simultaneously.
There is actually a group here on Bateworld that you can join, called “Pissing Out Cum”, to share your experiences with as you explore your effòrts.
I learned the “pee” method years ago. It opened up full days, even weeks of INSANE euphoria. Being queer I want it with him too, but the amount of pleasure with a man doing me never measures up. After sex, I have to go home and edge it for a release. Call me a compulsive masturbator. Learning the edging skills did it for me. I MASTURBATE A LOT.
Please make a big list of terms? The lingo used in the group cam bate rooms is confusing. People will ask “perv?” Or “naughty?” “Dirty” Or they will just say “woof” or “pig?” And it’s really confusing to someone who is new to this? Are these euphemisms for something else? people seem reluctant too explain, so I don’t know if they are code words for specific things. Please make a big list or point to where I would learn these terms. Thanks
I love such feelings….
Sensations can be increased even further:
– Retract the foreskin (if present); rubbing the bare glans brings more intense excitement
– Wear a comfortable cock ring during the day. As a result, your cock always remains somewhat erect
– I often ride my bike. The saddle massages the perineum
– I often take the bus. The engine vibrations make me horny
– Try “ouvert underwear“, „pouchless“. It is open at the front and the genitals hang freely
– Just skip the panties altogether
– Sleep naked
Im trying to stay uncummed, day two, I just wanna know if there are any risk about edging and cum denying? I mean like erect disfunction or something like that, I love to masturbate but I don’t want to be unable to have full elections 🙁
Haven’t masterbated for ages, but reading these comments and techniques makes me want to try it more.
Trying edging as I type 😏