Everything you describe about yourself, and your choices sounds marvelous and healthy to me!

QUESTION:

I’m in my late 20s, athletic, folks say I’m good looking, and I just love the bate. I don’t want sex with anyone. Don’t look at porn, take drugs or poppers. It’s just me and my penis! Only come about once or twice a week and stroke a lot daily. Come huge loads when I do come. Online, I sometimes I feel like a freak. Is this normal?

RESPONSE:

Everything you describe about yourself, and your choices sounds marvelous and healthy to me! Sometimes it does take a bit of courage to appreciate yourself in contrast to many assumptions that are quite common in the mainstream. For example, you mention that where you “sometimes feel like a freak” is online.

Well, many men in today’s world, especially since the advent of widespread Internet access and the proliferation of online pornography assume that male masturbation is primarily about looking at porn while you stroke your penis. My experience with this goes back long enough that I recall in the early days, much of the online porn was somewhat restricted to “pay sites,” but this has changed. Now an awful lot of explicit sexual content can be viewed totally free, without effective age-controls, and it is still one of the world’s biggest industries.

In practice, men have a wide range of different relationships with porn, just as we do with alcohol and some other recreational drugs. For many people, moderate use can be fun and no problem, for others it becomes seriously habit-forming and may not be so beneficial. There is also a reality of literal “porn addiction” that is no joke and can cause you serious problems, even to the point of social disruption and erectile dysfunction. Though some BateWorld readers may not want to hear this, it’s true. The truth of this issue is complicated!

Sometimes it does take a bit of courage to appreciate yourself in contrast to many assumptions that are quite common in the mainstream.

In contrast, I find your description of your relationship with masturbation seems wholesome and life-enhancing, not just because you are not fixated on porn. Though you do not use the current term “solosexual” to describe yourself here, in your twenties, thirties, even forties, it is natural and almost inevitable that a man has a healthy obsession with his penis and masturbation.

In fact, in today’s easily distracted realm of cell phones (often another kind of addiction!), tablets and computers, of corporate-controlled media, competitive and driven job markets, a man can get so busy you forget to take care of your own pure penis pleasure. You, and all men, certainly men over 50 as well, all deserve to enjoy as much masturbatory pleasure as you want!

There is some truth to “If you don’t use it, you lose it,” and regular use and exercise of those body parts, your penis, balls, anus, the entire pelvic region, and urogenital system are part of overall physical health and mental and emotional well-being. I know men in their 80s and 90s still enjoying masturbation often. They never stopped.

Congratulations, Brother: You are not at all weird—you sound like a wonderful man! As the saying goes, keep it up!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.