I like to think that I host a great bate date. Why do I think so, you wonder?
Well thanks for asking, bator! I think so because I just turned an age that starts with the number “5,” I have a handsome face but an average body, and while I have a crowd-pleasing penis, it’s not going to win awards in the size category; but…pretty much every guy who comes over, including guys who I consider objectively way “hotter” than I am, wants to come back.
So what’s my secret? Well this is The Bator Blog, so no secrets here. Here are a few tips to being a successful bate date host.
BE DIRECT
Have you been chatting with a local guy on the regular? Been exchanging some pics and videos and flirting around the idea of meeting up? Be direct. Tell him you’d like to meet. Can you host? Do you need to schedule a date ahead of time or are you asking to meet up RIGHT NOW? When I am direct and truthful, it is returned in kind. If he says he can’t meet, then I know it’s not happening. We can keep bating in the chat, which is still a hot thing to do while we’re beating our boners.
DON’T FORCE IT
If you follow my advice above, and the guy is still being maybe-ish about it, realize that this is a man who enjoys the fantasy of meeting up, but you’re not going to be going d-to-d with him anytime soon. And that’s okay! Just enjoy the fun you’re having on-line bating together virtually. On-line only bate buds are still worthwhile buds!
SHOW YOUR FACE
If you want to meet in person, send a face pic. I have an important job, I have family, blah blah blah. But I’m not inviting someone over to my place who won’t show me his face before he shows up. If I have to ask twice, we’re not meeting. ‘Nuff said.
HE’S COMING OVER! NOW WHAT?
Before my new penis friend arrives, I always ask if there’s any beverage he’d like to have. I say something along the lines of “I’ve got whisky, wine and water. What’s mine is yours, but if you want something else, grab it on the way.”
Most importantly, even if you don’t use it yourself, you should have some lube. Most serious bators use Albolene or coconut oil, so have some on hand. And while it’s not a deal breaker, I like to have more than one cock ring so I can offer one to my new buddy. Furthermore, if a dude likes poppers, let him know if you have any you can share. Lastly, towels are a good thing to have on hand. I don’t think I need to explain that one to you, bator.
ROLL WITH IT
When your new penis friend arrives, get him his drink. Make small talk and put him at ease. If he sits on the couch, sit next to him, not on the chair across the way. If after a few minutes, he still seems nervous, then you should be the one to start to massage your crotch. He came over to stroke dong with you, so be confident about that. A drink or a smoke usually breaks the ice, and before you know it you’ll be showing one another how you like to penis out when no one else is around, getting bonded in your love of the bate.
DON’T YUCK HIS YUM
You’re naked and stroking your greased up cocks and your new bud asks if you want to do something that you’re not into. What to do? No biggie! Just say sorry it’s not your jam and you’re having fun doing what you’re doing. Don’t change your perception of a guy you’re connecting with if he asks to sniff your butthole or massage your foot and you find that a turn-off. Again, just be direct and kind and I guarantee you will have a great time.
GO FORTH AND MASTURBATE
Questions? Feel free to message me on BW. I’m here for all of you, bators. And come on over anytime! I think you’ll want to come back.
Have any fun, funny, awkward, or just bad bate date experiences you’d like to share? Drop them in the comments below.
Written by BateWorld member Digg
Greeat suggestion about drink offers. Will remember that. I think I cover all of the other points.
All basic good advice for hooking up with a stranger.
I’ll add that asking a lot of sexual questions first means fewer surprises.
Also, setting the scene in advance can be very arousing. I’ve asked guys to be masturbating when I arrive (I’m into the CMNM thing and a lot of guys have fantasies about being caught.)
That way the drink is already poured, the lube and toys are handy, chat is zero and the sex is a 10 right out of the gate!