“I love to kiss guys while we bate together, but I also like sex with women sometimes…..what is this?”

QUESTION:

I love to kiss guys while we bate together, and while we bate each other’s cocks! It’s so incredibly hot this way, especially tongue-to-tongue! But I also like sex with women sometimes. So. What IS this?

RESPONSE:

One way to understand why kissing your friend while you masturbate together or masturbate mutually, and how the “French kissing” feels especially fine is to consider what some people say: “It’s like the tongue is your upper penis!” Well, there are indeed some comparisons: your tongue is one of that handful of features of your anatomy that lies along the center-line that divides your bi-lateral body between its left and right halves. Others are your nose, chin, Adam’s apple, navel, penis and anus. It’s interesting that these are all extremely sensitive features!

Beyond this interesting aspect of the tongue and kissing is the simple sensory intimacy of kissing itself. This brings your faces closer together with the one you are kissing, so long as it is mouth-to-mouth. You may have been communicating or connecting in other ways before this. But when you actually begin to kiss someone on the mouth, words end, at least for the moment, possibly replaced by sighs and gasps of feeling. Also, the lips and the mouth overall are also extremely sensitive and sensual regions of the face.

Kissing is usually understood as an activity of affection, of desire for, or abandonment to sensual connection. Heightened emotions may arise. Thus, to engage in such kissing with your male masturbation buddies is likely to amp up the experience for you both! This does not necessarily have anything to do with romance. It’s not about your place on the so-called scale between straight and gay, which presumably includes bisexuality somewhere in the middle, between those two. In fact, I think most human males are to at least some extent bisexual.

It’s not about your place on the so-called scale between straight and gay

I’m on record with my strong opinion, from my studies of behavioral science, medicine, sexology, and specifically a lot of experience with male masturbators, that such simplistic labels as “gay, bisexual, and straight or heterosexual” are not very useful when it comes to describing human males. 

Sure, varieties of behavior can be called “gay, bisexual, and straight or heterosexual” but not varieties of people—in my opinion. I cannot claim complete objectivity, or evidential proof. However, I don’t even believe that 10% at each end of the scale are purely wired or conditioned by personal history to be 100% straight or 100% gay. My observation is that, while most of us consciously have specific preferences, our sexuality in practice always tends to be more fluid than simple labels suggest. If you’re attracted to both men and women, great!!! If not, that’s also okay…

Our sexuality clearly involves both nature and nurture—genetics and personal history—but human sexuality is incredibly complex. None of us have anything to gain by getting attached to how we label ourselves. On the contrary, why limit your options?

That said, most men are somewhat fascinated by penises and male masturbation, which is the basis of genuine Phallic Brotherhood among Men!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.

The Batemaster (Bruce P. Grether)

How Bruce P. Grether became the Batemaster

Among his earliest memories, Bruce recalls seeing an adult man’s penis swing about anchored in a nest of curly brown hairs when the man was changing clothes. That penis fascinated him and he somehow knew it was of major importance. He also remembers how good it felt to slide down a stairway banister or to climb a tree with pressure between his legs sending delicious sensations all through his body.

At an early age, he played doctor with another boy his age, and the frottage he enjoyed as they rubbed their penises together made him feel One with All Things.

He was older, maybe 9 or 10 years when he figured out how to actually masturbate while taking a shower. Immediately Bruce became a fan of self-pleasure, though, with puberty, he became extremely shy about his body being seen. Still, when his pubic hair sprouted and his penis grew bigger, it astonished him how incredible the sensations could feel with adult genitalia.

All through his 20s and 30s Bruce loved masturbating and did it often. Something kept tell him though, that there could be more to it. None of the books he read about Tantra and Taoist erotic cultivation provided simple how-to instructions. Finally, in his early 40s, he came upon Joseph Kramer’s video about male genital massage: FIRE ON THE MOUNTAIN.

Having no playmates to try this with, he tried it on himself. In the process, he discovered what he soon named “Mindful Masturbation.” For 6 weeks he masturbated for hours every day, and did not ejaculate once! This was the Penis Paradise he had been looking for since his adventures playing doctor as a young boy. He was changed forever and lost most of his shyness and insecurities.

Bruce began to listen deeply to whatever his penis told him. This way he learned more and more about male masturbation, the penis, and he studied human sexuality. Soon he was hired to write professionally for the sex education site JackinWorld (dot) com, which he did for some years under the name “Bruce McFarland.”

Since then, his erotic activism is more radical and he uses his actual given name: Bruce P. Grether, AKA the Batemaster. He has hosted workshops and now does online masturbation coaching. In 2012 his best-selling book THE SECRET OF THE GOLDEN PHALLUS was published and with his handsome young friend Blue Tyger he created the Erotic Engineering site to explore advanced male self-pleasure practices.

Bruce considers himself a Missionary of the Male Mysteries and his work continues.

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