“Your mate’s erectile dysfunction may be the least of his problems. But that in itself ought to be enough to motivate him to seek professional help.”

QUESTION:

I’ve got a mate who has gotten strung out by chem parties. At first, he said it was the greatest thing he ever knew, the Vitamin K and the Tina, and all-night group bates! I’ve never done that, but we used to bate together, and now he can’t even get it up. He’s a wreck! How can I help him?

RESPONSE:

From the terminology you use, it sounds like you live in the UK or perhaps even Australia, where the term “mate” means a friend or buddy. Unfortunately, your friend is dealing with some extremely dangerous drugs that can lead to long-term health problems, or even death. 

You may or may not be able to really help him with this. But you can certainly offer him as much personal and emotional support as you can without endangering yourself. “Vitamin K” usually means “ketamine,” originally a potent animal tranquilizer, which in humans can produce extreme “out-of-body” or brief psychedelic experiences that do not last long in subjective time. It does tend to be overwhelming and disorienting. “Tina” is generally slang for crystal meth, a deadly dangerous drug that no one should even bother to try.

I am aware of a crazy party culture in the UK that involves “chem parties” as you mention. Participants may be naked and masturbating for days on end with the artificial chemical stimulation as fuel. Sadly, though many participants initially feel the experience is incredible, unless you break away from that sub-culture, serious consequences are inevitable.

Though ketamine for humans may have some therapeutic potential in carefully controlled medical contexts as a psychological catharsis, in recreational settings it’s a recipe for disaster. The dangers of crystal meth are well-known and considerable, as it’s highly addictive, and continued use leads to eroding health, partly through the neglect of certain important basic needs such as food, brushing your teeth, and sleep. It may seem to enhance sex at first, but at a terrible cost, and is best to avoid entirely.

The major hope for helping your friend is to reassure him that you care but keep steering him towards some kind of treatment or rehabilitation. You really cannot take on such serious drug problems as he’s gotten himself enmeshed in, unless you are a professional therapist.

When serious use of hard drugs endangers someone’s health and possibly their life, the breakthrough really comes—if it ever comes!—when the person makes their own choice to change behaviors, either out of fear of dying, or disgust with how they are ruining their life.

Sadly, your mate’s erectile dysfunction may be the least of his problems. But that in itself ought to be enough to motivate him to seek professional help. Plus, if you love to bate, hopefully it will inspire you never to try these drugs.

Good luck, and just do your best to be supportive, but remember that you cannot be responsible for his choices.

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