What is this Ageism thing, anyway?

QUESTION:

I’ve got an older friend who I love to masturbate with. I’m 33 and he’s almost 70, but I love his mind, his experience, his good heart. Plus, he sure knows how to handle my penis and I love playing with his! He doesn’t pressure me for other sex beyond this. What is it with age-ism, anyway? Do you think there’s anything odd or “off” about our connection?

RESPONSE:

Your connection with this older man sounds wonderful! Yes, you can learn from him, and there is a long tradition all over the world of older men gaining youthful joy and rejuvenation from younger men open to erotic sharing with them, or even just honest and warm-hearted friendship. 

You show some personal depth with your appreciation of him. He doubtless enjoys the erotic sharing with someone far younger than he is. Many young men your age still become erect in a matter of seconds, compared with men over 60 or 70, who often require a bit longer to become erect. Perhaps this older bate buddy of your also understands that to have a full erection the whole time while you masturbate is not necessary. In fact, it can be inhibiting and can cause problems: the pressure to keep a full erection itself can be an erection-killer!

There is certainly not anything odd or “off” about this special friendship, though in reality such a connection between guys whose ages differ by almost four decades is a bit unusual, simply because it’s not so common. Many younger guys feel less attracted to older men, who no longer appear as they did a few decades before. Quite a bit of this feeling is conditioning that places great value upon good looks and youthful looks. This can seriously limit your options!

But with an open heart and mind, you sincerely realize that all men of all ages are beautiful—each man in his own way. Of course, some older men may feel less attracted to younger men, than to men closer to their age, despite what some might assume. Some older men feel awkward about finding younger men attractive or sexually appealing, as if there is something actually wrong with this! Of course, this too, is often a conditioned, learned opinion. There’s not necessarily anything wrong or improper about older men enjoying how attractive younger men may appear, so long as the younger fellows are of legal age.

Ageism, in terms of prejudice against elders simply because they are older and may not look quite so wrinkle-free, or free from grey hairs, or as slim and strong as they once were, seems to be worse and more common in the Western World. In the Far East (where I grew up) there is still greater respect for older people. This is something that Westerners would be well-advised to learn from peoples of the Far East. In truth, people of all ages have their value, and are worthy of appreciation.

To have a bate buddy with a significant age difference like this, where you each appreciate the other man, is special and quite marvelous! I hope you continue to cherish the friendship and enjoy masturbating together and doing it mutually, for as long as you both value the connection!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

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