Ask The Batemaster: After Soccer Shower Bate

QUESTION: I’m in college and I love to bate in the showers after soccer practice. Mostly other guys pretend to ignore it, but sometimes they watch me with interest, which excites me more! Sometimes they even join in by starting to do the same, which is super-hot. A few times we’ve actually stroked each other. But is this dangerous legally? Is this public exposure?

RESPONSE: What you describe is doubtless a fairly common experience: naked guys + wet showers and soap = asking for erections and stroking them. Still, the fact is that communal showers in gymnasiums and other school facilities are considered shared public space. I’ve got no wish to burst your bubble about what seems like it ought to be considered just part of the fun of being a healthy guy, right? Only don’t forget that you are considered to be responsible for how your activity while being seen naked by others may affect them.

In the context of a school shower following soccer practice, you cannot avoid naked bodies seeing other naked bodies. Further, even the matter of becoming aroused and perhaps fully erect in the presence of the other fellows, probably because of seeing them and being seen by them, in the behavioral sense is totally natural and understandable.

The situation can become a bit problematic when you extend this experience into the realm of social interaction and social responsibility. When you engage in sexual behavior such as masturbating in the presence of others sharing the showers with you, it may seem like harmless fun and extremely hot to you. But others sharing the experience, not intending anything of the kind, may feel quite differently.

Many guys on Bateworld will doubtless feel it could be a delightful scenario, a script for harmless and exciting fun. That’s surely how it ought to be considered. However, as I’ve written about in other columns, such as the one about the fellow caught masturbating on a late night city bus, and the fellow masturbating in the Central Park shrubbery, keep in mind that in the actual situation, some participants might not welcome the experience of seeing you or anyone else masturbate. It can probably be considered indecent exposure or public lewdness.

Of course, this suggests the obvious: What is considered decent exposure? In real life, male nudity happens, but the penis is still a powerful taboo, for complicated and weird reasons.

Take care to sense what others feel in this situation: by their expressions and body language, it will likely be clear if they are not interested, or even upset. Don’t push your display on anyone. Still, where are the clear lines about flaccid penises, partly erect penises, soaping yourself for hygiene, and actual masturbation? Be aware of the responsible and social dimensions. We can take ourselves too seriously: so, pay attention to how you may be affecting others, but have fun!

A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.