Ask The Batemaster: Socks & Other Fetishes

Is this a stupid fetish? Is there anything wrong with this?

QUESTION: I love to masturbate with all kinds of guys, only I can’t really get off the same way unless a guy keeps his socks on, especially white athletic socks, like I always do while we stroke. Is this a stupid fetish? Is there anything wrong with this?

RESPONSE: There is nothing wrong with what turns you on. This one probably qualifies as a sexual fetish. Such a fetish is usually a situation, a prop, a costume, an image, or any particular practice, even a role-playing fantasy, that heightens your arousal. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with it, so long as no one actually gets harmed in the process of you pursuing or fulfilling your fetish.

Many fetishes such as this one are quite easy to get some amiable fellow masturbator to help you enjoy. Keeping his socks on, even wearing your preferred style of socks (for they could also be nerdy dark dress socks, or woolly winter socks with the tops turned down in a cuff!) is nothing huge to ask of a bate buddy, if he likes to help you get off.

The only real drawback to fetishes is that they can be somewhat limiting, so if this is literally the one and only way you can really enhance your erotic arousal level, or achieve orgasm, you might want to consider conscious work on diversification.

Far milder and completely harmless are less extreme preferences for certain props or situations that contribute to your arousal and satisfaction, but upon which your enjoyment does not entirely depend. Most men have preferences, such as facial hair, lack of facial hair, a hairy chest, older or younger guys, a policeman’s cap, or men who wear glasses, that are personal turn-ons. Such preferences as well as actual fetishes mostly stem from early experiences you may not even remember.

If a fetish is an absolute necessity, it can be somewhat limiting. Usually this is just a matter of conditioning so if you wonder about how dependent you are on a fetish consider masturbating without it. Try something else that you also find stimulating. If there is nothing else that really turns you on, it may seem limiting, but is not necessarily a terrible problem.

Keep aware that any habit so strong you really feel seriously dependent on it, may not be anything wrong in itself. Still, it’s worth checking out alternatives. If you open your mind, there is a Universe of other hot and fun things to try while you masturbate, either solo or with others.

So, enjoy those socks, but it’s a good idea to take them off sometimes, and bate with guys who don’t wear them too. Variety really is spicy, both in masturbation and life in general!

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BRUCE P. GRETHER is the “BateMaster”. Mr. Grether’s lifelong love of penises and masturbation has led him to achieve a level of mastery and understanding of masturbation that is at once unique and extremely rare. He is renowned for both his ability to achieve seemingly endless states of prolonged and intense masturbatory pleasure as well as his skill in passing this knowledge on to his students. Mr. Grether has made it his life’s mission to encourage men to take their practice of masturbation to new levels of personal enrichment and self-discovery.

Mr. Grether is a globally recognized masturbation activist, an accomplished masturbation coach, and a tireless facilitator of masturbation workshops. In 2001 he coined the now popular term “Mindful Masturbation”. He is the author of a best-selling book, The Secret of the Golden Phallus, plus the erotic fantasy novels The Moontusk Chronicles. His website can be found at www.eroticengineering.com.

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A note from The Batemaster: I’m honored that the guys at Bateworld have asked me to respond to some questions from male masturbators around the world every week.

Always check with your doctor about any issues you might be experiencing with your sexual organs. Prompt diagnosis and treatment are important. This article’s purpose is to inform and entertain readers and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment.