Ask Dr. Bate: Uncircumcised Edging And Early Ejaculation

Uncircumcised Edging

Question

Hi Dr. Bate,
Thanks so much in advance for taking the time to reply to my inquiry.
I have an uncircumcised penis, which I love. But, it’s also sensitive. I definitely love bating and all, but because by dick head is sensitive, I just can’t edge for long periods of time like many bator friends on here. Wish I could. What techniques can I try to increase the time I can edge without releasing?
Thanks for reading,
Chris

Answer:

Thank you for your question Chris, and I’m sorry you’re having trouble keeping the edge longer. I sympathize with your situation. It is fortunate that you are uncircumcised, as much of the pleasurable nerve endings are still intact. However, as you know, it causes the head to be quite sensitive.
Here are some suggestions:

1. Explore – Because your head is more sensitive than guys without intact foreskin it might be a great experiment to see if there are certain parts of your head that are more sensitive than others. Explore and see if you can stimulate the lesser parts with a finger or the palm of your hand and see how long you can go before it gets uncomfortable. Also, try to explore whether concentrating more on the shaft gives you pleasure without the sensations getting too intense.
2. Desensitizing cream – There are several products on the market for this purpose. You might find this helpful in lessening the intensity of your edge.
3. Go slow – Bating your cock doesn’t have to be a race to the finish line. I recommend slowing down and savoring every stroke. Take some deep breaths into the sensations you’re feeling and feel free to let go of your penis every now and again to relish in the feelings of your cock and balls.

I hope this helps,
Garland

*Do any other brothers with foreskin have any further suggestions? Leave them in the comments below!

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Early Ejaculation During Live Chat

Question:

Hi Dr. Bate,
I was wondering if you had suggestions for me to stop ejaculating early when I video chat. I start out slow and stay slow the whole time, but my first two times that I’ve Skyped with a guy, I ejaculated after only a couple of minutes of stroking. I tried to stop and edge, but it just comes out without giving me a chance. I don’t know if it had anything to do with the cock ring that I had on or not. Any suggestions would be great because there are some guys that I would really like to Skype/video chat with and last longer than a few minutes.

(On a side note I have no problem watching a pre-recorded video or a live video without actually interacting and can stroke for quite some time.)
Thanks in advance,
QuickShooter

Answer:

Hello QuickShooter,

Thank you for sharing your question. I know that your question is not only yours, but many folks’ question. Thank you for being bold enough to ask it.
To start off, I would say that you have discovered that live chatting adds an extra erotic charge for you. That is great information for you to know! Your body responds more to mutual interaction, rather than one-sided voyeurism.

Since you are experiencing this seemingly sudden ejaculation specifically with live chatting while wearing a cock ring, I would suggest that you experiment live chatting without the cock ring. This may help decrease the sensitivity of your cock while you are live chatting with someone, making your session last longer.

In addition, I would try using deep belly breaths to move concentrated energy around your cock to the rest of your body. Slowing down your breathing will help negotiate your arousal, as well, and may help taper off your urge to ejaculate quickly.

Hope this helps, Bate Brother.
In Breath,
Toby

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Garland Jarmon heralds from 7 years as an HIV/AIDS educator and sexual health counselor for individuals and couples. Having a Masters in Social Work and now as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, he seeks to help all those in the LGBTQIA, straight, and Bator community live a more wholesome and embodied life, full of mindfulness and conscious exploration.

Toby de Luca comes from a background in Education and Massage Therapy. With a Masters in Teaching and also as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, he to assist folks in facilitating stronger, healthier relationships with their own bodies and their relationships with others.

Together they co-own their own Sex and Erotic Coaching business — Spiritual Eros (www.SpiritualEros.com). They desire to bring to the BateWorld Community an opportunity to have an open and honest discussion about issues that many of us face. They believe that everything is an experiment and that the only failed experiment is one you don’t collect the data from. They also understand that because their answers may not fit every lived experience, they welcome community members to offer their experiences, challenges, and triumphs. They are proponents that healthy community creates healthier lives… and healthy lives, healthier communities!

Garland and Toby are Sexologists and as such are NOT medical doctors or therapists. The opinions, suggestions, and advice given are not meant to be in lieu of your primary care physician’s medical advice. If you are concerned about a medical condition or have a medical emergency, PLEASE contact your doctor, urgent care, or emergency room!

Brothers, we encourage you to exercise your best and highest wisdom and intuition!

If you’d like to submit questions, please email them to [email protected].